If you already have children and have unexpectedly become pregnant, you may be considering placing your baby for adoption. This is understandable, especially if you feel as if you don’t have the resources or a stable situation to raise another child.
Talking with your children about placing the baby for adoption can feel overwhelming. They may not understand what adoption means or why you’ve made this decision, and they may feel confused or upset at first.
Ohana Health is here to help you throughout this unexpected pregnancy. We provide free pregnancy services and accurate information about your options, including adoption, so you can be fully informed as you move forward.
Schedule an appointment today to get the answers you need.
Use The Right Language
Using language that matches your children’s age and understanding is important. Try to be as honest and compassionate as you can with your children. Emphasize that adoption is not about “giving up” your child, but about placing them with another loving family who will raise them.
Reassure your children that they will always be the baby’s sibling, even though another family will be raising the child.
Involve Them In The Process
Explaining what adoption means and what their future relationship with the baby might look like can help your children better understand the process.
If your child is older and feels comfortable, you could involve them in small parts of the process, such as helping you look at adoptive family profiles. If you choose an open adoption, they may also be able to write letters or draw pictures to help maintain a connection.
Expect a Range of Emotions
It may be difficult for your child to initially understand the concept of adoption and why you have chosen this route. This is okay and to be expected. Allow them to express their feelings, give them time to process the news, and answer their questions honestly.
Reassure them that the decision is difficult for you, that you love all your children equally, and that you want to do the best for them and their future.
Also, if they seem concerned, let them know that you will never place them for adoption. That is off the table, and they will always stay with you.
We Are Here To Support You
If you’re considering adoption, learning about the different adoption plans and confirming important details about your pregnancy with an ultrasound are important next steps.
Ohana Health offers pregnancy testing, confidential ultrasounds, and a safe, non-judgmental environment where you can ask questions about adoption and receive support.
Our client advocates can connect you with trusted, reputable agencies and provide ongoing emotional support throughout pregnancy and after placement.
Contact us to make an appointment.
